「应用场景」

你可能会诱使他人为自己提供这种进行自夸的机会，有些人称之为“回潮”（boomerasking）。但是，如果对话伙伴感觉到你是故意为之，那这将是一个冒险的策略。哈佛商学院的瑞安·豪瑟（Ryan Hauser）主持的一项新研究表明，如果提出问题不是因为你想得到答案，而是因为你希望有人问你相同的问题，那么给人留下的印象会比直率的自夸更糟糕。让问题自然浮现，当遇到能凸显自己成绩的机会时，充分利用它们。

You might be tempted to induce others to give you such openings for self-promotion—what some call “boomerasking.” But that’s a risky strategy if a conversation partner senses that he or she is being gamed. New research led by Ryan Hauser of Harvard Business School indicates that posing a question not because you want an answer but because you want someone to ask the same of you makes a worse impression than outright bragging. Let questions arise organically, and when you see opportunities to highlight your successes, make the most of them.